In the society we live in, there seems to be so much to be afraid of- disease, crime, violence, abuse, kidnapping, war, politicians, etc. This type of fear can be overwhelming especially when there is real present danger. Some of us have fear from things that have happened to us before (such as traumatic events). Some of us have fear from things we see or hear (such as what is on the news). Sometimes our thoughts create new fears neither seen nor heard in this reality.
Whatever your fear is, I invite you to challenge that fear. When fear is left unchallenged, it can be overwhelming and eventually end up controlling our lives in an unhealthy manner. I invite you to challenge fear in order to live a happier and healthier life.
Here Are a Few Tips for Overcoming Fear
Identify the Fear– What are you specifically afraid of? Go in as much detail as possible. Taking out the mystery and uncertainty of it often makes it easier to challenge.
Identify Its Origin- Where is this fear coming from? Is it from something you were told…is it something you’ve seen…is it something you’ve experienced? Once we know where the fear is coming from, it is easier to challenge it as well as re-frame and re-interpret it.
Re-frame and Re-interpret- Sometimes fear leaves us with defeating thoughts such as “oh my god this is so horrible, there is nothing I can do” or “I’ll never be able to___again” or “I’m so afraid.” These thoughts can leave us feeling powerless if left unchallenged. Consider looking at the fearful situation in a different way.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- What am I really afraid of? (worst case scenario)
- How would I like things to change?
- What can I do to change this? (start small)
- Is my fear helping or hurting?
- Where did I learn this from and is it a definite reality?
From there, you can re-frame your thoughts to ones that are more helpful. Here are a couple of examples:
Unhelpful Thought: “oh my god, we’re all going to die- there’s no way to get around it”
More Balanced Thought: “physical death is inevitable, but I will focus on enjoying my life while I’m here”
Unhelpful Thought: “nowhere is safe anymore, I’m risking my life and my children’s lives every time I go outside”
More Balanced Thought: “There are dangers in this world, but I will do my best to make sure I am safe and my children are safe. I also know there are others who are committed to the same”
Unhelpful Thought: “If I pursue my dreams, I’ll be broke and have nothing”
More Balanced Thought: “Pursuing my dreams may be risky but if I make a plan and get help on that plan, I’ll have a good chance of being successful. I was constantly told I would be broke if I pursue my dreams, but that doesn’t make it a reality. There are many people who were able to pursue their dreams successfully.”
Remember Your Power– Even though it may not feel like it, remember that you have the power to change every aspect of your life for the better. Do not allow fear to lead you into believing that there are no other options. There are always other options. Even being afraid in itself is an option.
Seek Help- Some fears may not be easy to challenge due to how long or how intense they are in our lives. Let someone that you trust know how you feel. Consider seeking professional help or support groups if the fear becomes too overwhelming to deal with alone.
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